I just got into JFK from an uh-mazing week in España, so apologies in advance for any typos or rambling sentences. Blame it on the jet lag. Aaaanyway, last week I had you guys ask questions about my relationship with my roomie and partner in blogging crime, Payton. I did my best to answer everything that was asked below! Keep scrollin’ for a bit on what it’s like to blog with your BFF.
HOW DID YOU AND PAYTON MEET + BECOME ROOMATES?
Payton and I met sort of through the blogging world, and sort of through the “Texas” world. And yes, Texas is a tiny world all on its own. I’m originally from Chicago, but went to college at University of Texas. Payton went to Texas A&M, another big school in the Lonestar State! We shared a bunch of mutual friends [ and even found out we may have crossed paths one spring break in Cabo, but we’re not totally clear on that…woops! ] but never officially met while in college.
When I decided to move out to LA for my job in creative advertising, I was on the hunt for a roommate. Around the same time, Payton had decided to head to the West Coast to start blogging full time. Somehow, someway [ okay fine, it was probably IG direct message ] we got connected and decided to be roommates! We actually didn’t even meet in person until the day we moved into our apartment.
I think we clicked so well because we’re kind of two black sheep in the scheme of “Texas things”. In fact, Payton was the only other person I knew of in the entire state that had a blog! I think it takes a certain type of personality to break out of the mold + start something completely on your own…especially in college when the social, group aspect of your life seems most important. P and I both dealt with our fair share of ridicule for starting our blogs in college, and we both adopted the “those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind” mentality! Nothin’ like a shared experience of catty girls + overrated college boys to bring two gals together 🙂
DO YOU GUYS EVER COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER? OR STRUGGLE WITH COMPARISON?
This is one of the questions we get most often about our friendship slash work relationship. I’d be lying if I said we never compare ourselves to the other, but we do not compete. Comparison is a normal reaction to living and working with someone in the exact same field as you, and I think Payton and I compare ourselves to each other often. That being said, I think comparison can be done in a healthy, nurturing way! We use comparisons to challenge each other and build each other up. For example, I have a slightly larger social following, but Payton has more engagement than I do! We have different strengths, different goals and different ideas. We are two different people, after all 🙂
But believe me, it’s not all sunshine + rainbows. With so many gorgeous, stylish, smart and talented gals in the blogging industry, comparison can be a deep, dark rabbit hole to fall into. I’m not immune to disappointment and self doubt when I see another blogger snag an opportunity that I tried for and didn’t get. I think what’s super important to remember is that one person’s success does not equal your failure. Comparing yourself to other is a waste of time, because everyone has their own thing goin’ that has nothing to do with you!
As far as competition goes, plain and simple…Payton and I just don’t compete with each other. This may be hard to believe, but it’s true. We have gotten so much farther by working together and having each other’s backs. If Payton gets an invite to an event that I was left out of, I’ll go as her plus one! If I get offered to do a photoshoot with a clothing company, I always ask if Payton can be involved too. While we do lots of projects solo, we are constantly passing contact info, opportunities and event invites to each other. We’ve committed to working together whenever possible, and now we get tons of offers to do projects as a pair!
And, in the end, we are real friends. I’m truly happy when I see P succeed, and vice versa. I see how hard she works everyday, and I’m proud to be her friend.
HOW DO Y’ALL BALANCE WORK + SOCIAL LIFE?
Not that well. I wish I had a better answer to this one! When you work for yourself, it’s hard to shut off and relax. I constantly feel like there’s another post I could be writing or email I could be answering. Payton does a better job than I do at going out and having a good time, but she’s a workaholic too! After ending a long distance relationship, I have made it a priority to get out more and be social. I’m not a big party gal, but I’m working on coming out of my shell a bit!
Lately I’ve been trying to stop working on the weekends…no checking email or blog comments [ but y’all know I still peek ]. I also have been charging my phone at night away from my bed, so I’m not dozing off to the glow of an iPhone screen. If any of you guys have tips on balancing work + play, let me know in the comments below!
DO YOU EVER GET ANNOYED OF EACH OTHER?
I mean…duh! We live, work, eat, play, watch TV, lay out, etc. together, so of course we need our alone time. Lucky for us, Payton and I are both lone wolves! We crave time to ourselves and are respectful of each other’s space [ both physical + emotional ]. We’ve gotten pretty good at knowing when the other needs a break, and feeling out each other’s moods!
Do you guys have any other questions?! Let me know in the comments below and I will be sure to answer! For more on why and how I started blogging, check out THIS POST on my transition to becoming a full time blogger.